ok..
so i figured out why my right-click wasn't working and other people's were..
they are running xfce!!
however, right-click probably only half-works for them as well.. (please let me know if not)
after installing xfce on rc11 i can rightclick (shift+tap) to add stuff to the toolbar etc..
HOWEVER, in all the applications->leafpad, scite, kdepim, etc etc.. i can't get right-click to work at all..
so i dont think this is a problem with the buttons as i can't right-click in vnc like i could in rc10
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