Omicron:
Confused yet?
You don't have to worry about the fbvnc, it's already in the pdaX-SD.tar.gz file. If you were able to get to the log in and run startx you're good. The fbvnc is needed if you extract the pdaXrom yourself.
Hope you're able to revive your Z, if I remember correctly suspend doesn't work when booted to pdaXrom on SD, you have to reboot out of pdaXrom to Cacko to suspend. PITA, which led me to try X/Qt, which works pretty well. The next version of pdaXrom may make me leave Qtopia based ROM altogether which would make life simplier.
Did you leave your Z on battery power when you left it to do something else?
If so leaving your battery out for a while should resolve it, something similar happend to me and once I calmed down and let it alone without battery it booted again (and blood pressure returned to normal)
Good luck