ok, I've learned some hard lessons:
1. dont play around with rom's when you really dont know what your doing.
2. when doing a nand restore make sure your cf/sd card is formated to 16 not 32 (this is what got me back on track)
3. read carefull the information you've colleted and understand it well
4. be patient
thanks to alex and pelon and trisoft for there help.